Chasing items on a list is a shitty way to live.
I’ve spent my entire life making lists. To do lists, pros/cons lists, favorite food lists, bucket lists, heck, I’ve even made ranked lists of girls I like. Lists create a lot of pressure to accomplish—which is why they are so good for work. But what happens when we don’t eat the favorite foods, never get a chance with our #1 crush, or never travel to those 5 countries before we turn 30. Anxiety sets in, stress ensues and a sense of failure creeps in.
We need to stop living our lives based on bucket lists.
Lists are a narrow way to live. More times than not that “30 before 30” bucket list is just a result of an emotional breakup, too much coffee, or excessive Google searching of “things to do before I turn 30”. Over time the sadness of the breakup goes away, the caffeine wears off and we’re left copy and pasting someone else’s bucket list to a Word doc. You know, just so we can say we have a bucket list and create this vision of a life we will one day live.
HOW we live may be more meaningful.
Filling life with people that I can be open and honest with, being enthusiastically curious, focusing the most energy on things that make me smile, not being ashamed of the way I feel & think, and being unapologetically me seems the better plan.
My hypothesis is that focusing on the how will yield a lifetime of awesome experiences…many more than this damn bucket list.